I am a good mother. I typed those same words into Google the other day (don’t ask why, was quite bored at the time) and the results made me slightly pissed. Here are some of the results: I am not a good mother, nor do I aspire to be; The good mother quiz: Terrible mother or good mother; Am I a good mom?;I wasn’t a good mom, etc etc. You get the gist. I can’t help but feel, and this feeling is shared by a lot of moms I showed the searchresults to, that it is wrong to say you are a good mum. But why, and why do I feel a slight pang of guilt admitting what a great mum I am? Quite simply, it’s other moms, and the ‘They Say” specialists. If you say you’re a good mother, there will be a hundred women and another hundred “specialists” saying you’re still doing something wrong. You should have done baby led weaning; your baby doesn’t sleep in perfect temperatures at all times; you shouldn’t have child care; you should stimulate your baby more; you should have breast fed longer etc. But somehow, when I look at my baby girl, I don’t see any of those apparent mistakes. I see a happy ,healthy , inquisitive , adaptable and friendly little toddler. And I’ll go ahead and pat myself on the back for that, and so should you.